As I embark on the endless research project regarding Maternal Poetry and redefining the concepts of motherhood, I found this Tedx Talk with Kate Dimpfl regarding sex and birth. Perhaps watching this birth you will better understand how changing our idea of birth will help also change your experience.
In a society that has extremes when it comes to the idea of motherhood, we have to invest in why this is?
Motherhood historically was how a family expanding their working capability, it was not until the Industrial Age that the family left the home to provide for the home, more children meant more people to work the land. Women did not even have the reproductive rights to birth control until 1972. Take a minute and think about that.
That means not only the first time you had sex may have resulted in a pregnancy but every other time you had sex you could be pregnant, most when spent the majority of their lives after adolescence pregnant or nursing. I was 17 when I lost my virginity, I used a condom and then was allowed to make an appointment without my parents’ knowledge and was prescribed the pill by my doctor. This was a luxury my mother did not have and neither did yours.
Women have only had a very short period in our history in learning about our bodies, becoming comfortable with sexuality, and in turn demystifying our misconception of birth.
Although I took a historical turn from the inspiration of this blog post I feel that it still matters and is connected with the initial idea. We as women need to invest in understanding our bodies, birth and the idealized unrealistic concepts of what motherhood looks like.