Very often I will meet hopeful couples that know what they want- how their birth WILL be, how their home and family WILL be, the hopeful perfection of life. Life is not perfect, birth is not perfect, and I hate to say it but children are not perfect nor is your partner. We will not go into the debate about mothers, because I am bias.
Life with EXPECTATIONS is a life full of disappointments. The goal of your birth is to connect with your body and baby. Listen carefully. How do you listen to someone who cannot speak, who you can not make eye contact with or touch directly? How do you understand the difference between pain caused by illness and pain caused by stress and fear? If the plan is to have a baby, naturally easily and calmly how do we do that?
1. Learn about your changing body- research classes that speak to you, HypnoBirthing spoke to me and still does.
2. Connect with your breath. Become aware of it during moments of stress. Long lines, traffic, confrontational people, overwhelming mess, accidents that happen to you or that you witness, etc. Stress is one of our best learning tools for birth, if we practice our breath during these moments, birth will be easier.
3. Talk to your baby- play music, dance, laugh with your partner, notice how your baby reacts because they are listening.
You are a strong and beautiful woman- trust your body, trust your intuitive self, trust your ability to clearly and easily communicate your NEEDS not your wants (there is a difference make sure you learn the difference) let go of your fears of birth. If you can’t I will teach you how.
With grace and love,