Letting Go of Fear

Whether we believe it or not fear is a large factor to becoming a new mom. We will never be the same after the birth of our baby. Our brains will never think the same, we are no longer alone, we are a part of another human being, caring for them in every which way. So we must examine that and explore our heart before we walk into our birthing room, because fear can change our point of view so drastically that it stops us in our tracks. Think of the fear of heights, or bugs- imagine someone with some sort of fear, what is there reaction? Freeze, run away, scream, panic- but why, what is the rational thought behind it? What will happen if that person walks across a steel grate- the thought is I will fall through- but it is possible? Or the daddy long leg spider that wonders pass a person, can that spider actually cause you any harm? The rational mind is no longer working, fear is shutting down the body causing it to go into a panic.

Now imagine that you have aimlessly wondered down your path during pregnancy, dutifully going to every appointment, the nursery is beautifully decorated and everything seems to be in place. But your rational mind is starting to fill with fears, about your birth, about breastfeeding, about caring for another human being, being solely responsible for another life. What if you yourself experience a birth trauma, or listened and watched every TLC Birth Story thinking that this may help you prepare. What if you are unsure of what it will feel like to be in labor? If these thoughts have wandered through your brain, what will your body do when you actually go into labor? Will you run away, will you scream, will you freeze and clench your body?

Now imagine that you have faced that spider, that grate in the sidewalk and walked passed it because you faced your fear, you rationalized that there is nothing to be afraid of. HypnoBirthing allows both parents to face that fear about birth and parenting, allowing you to rationalize that this is what your body is suppose to do. Muscles working in harmony, a wave moving over your body allowing the baby to descend, the cervix to open, gently moving your baby closer to you and your partner. Breathing slowly and evenly, allowing your mind to float through the process with no resistances which would cause stress and pain. Birth can be joyful and loving, it can be as you imagined. I see time and time again when women do this course and release there fears about birth and concentrate about how there birth will look like, how it will feel, how long will they hold on to there baby before it is birthed, what part of the day it will be birthed and over and over again I see it come true. How confident the mother feels that she is in control of her body, in control and willing to open up and enjoy the wave. Imagine if you were so confident in your body before you gave birth that you welcomed it without any fear what so ever.

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About Kate Sullivan

I have been teaching HypnoBirthing and attending births as a HypnoBirthing Labor Companion since 2008. My passion comes from empowering every family, whether it is a quick inquiry to learn more or a client that I joyfully spend hours counseling with HypnoBirthing or rushing off to a birth at 2 in the morning. I want to teach you how to trust yourself, your body and give your partner those same tools so that you can begin your journey as parents with confidence.
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